Guilt, Depression, and Inaction

You no longer want to check the mail or answer the phone. You spend the night awake, but you feel as if the day is a dream world. Nothing comes together, nothing makes sense.

You know there is a problem waiting out there, you know there is a path out of this difficulty, even if it is painful to consider that path, but you can't seem to find the first step.

Even if you know the way to go, the act of taking that first step makes the process concrete. It's easier to deal with a problem like foreclosure when it is just an abstract theory. Unfortunately, abstract theory is interrupted by reality. The ache in your gut reminds you that all is not well and something must be done. At times you feel tired, at other times you feel sick.

It's time to put the concrete situation in perspective and take action that will heal you. You are not a bad person, you have not committed a great evil. You acted in good faith, and perhaps the people who helped you into this mess acted in good faith as well. Perhaps they didn't, but that is irrelevant right now, because right now you need to do something to move out of this mental trap of inaction and do something.

First, foremost, take some time and forgive yourself. Remember that you have tried, done your best, and that there are times of loss we all must go through. You have survived troubles before. You will survive this too.

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